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04 December 2013 @ 10:16 pm
Ugh-Ish-Ness.  
1) The Tigers traded Prince Fielder. (I know, you thought I was done talking about baseball for the year). I’m fucking pissed. He is the best first baseman in the goddamn league and yeah, his hitting dropped off a little last season but that’s like saying ‘oh a shark lost a tooth’ but he’s still a goddamn shark! We got Ian Kinsler from Texas in the trade and while I admit Kinsler is a great player, are we that desperate for a permanent 2nd baseman that we’d trade Prince for one? Fuck no. You’re breaking up the band, man! The Fielder/Cabrera duo is a major draw. He’s like one of the top two jerseys we sell, people come to see him play. And damn, man, our corner flow between 3rd and 1st is a thing of beauty. We haven’t seen that kind of chemistry since the days of Trammell and Whitaker in the 80s (and that’s a hella compliment coming from me, cuz those were my boys). So WTF Detroit?!


2) Grandpa fell out of his wheelchair at the nursing home. He tries, often, to stand up from his chair. He is too out of it to realize that he can’t do that anymore. There’s a sensor on his seat that warns when the weight changes on it, but it only takes a split second for him to lurch forward. I guess he was having a screaming fit in the middle of the night, so they brought him out to the nurses station with them, but then he tried to stand up, as he does when he is in those moods, and went face first onto the floor. He has a concussion and a dislocated shoulder. Normally they would perform surgery on the shoulder, but they can’t for him because he’s 94. They said it would mostly affect mobility, that he doesn’t really have anyways, and that if it was hurting him at all, they could do steroids shots instead. It’s the best option they could offer. He will be back in the nursing home by the weekend. At his age, this kind of injury could be that Thing that is the last straw. I just don’t want him to be in pain. I was prepared yesterday for him to go, when it first happened, but now he seems to be doing better. It’s sad to say, but I think Grandpa has been ready to let go for awhile, but he holds on for Grandma and it’s honestly not doing Grandma any good. (also, Grandma needs to stop telling us grandkids that we shouldn’t be bothered to come visit her and Grandpa, not to trouble ourselves. When I was a kid in the hospital all the time, Grandma was the person who came to visit me more than anyone else, except my mom. More than my own dad even. That’s what family does. And you know where I learned that? From Grandma!)

3) My whole family is coming over to my house for a holiday gathering on Saturday and while I love my family, that’s a damn lot of people (anywhere from 25 - 40) up in my house and while I also usually enjoy it once the game playing gets underway, I dislike the awkward polite conversation portion of the night because they want to know what I’ve been up to and how do I explain writing Jensen/JDM porn and discovering Tumblr? This is my life, but none of them consider it much of a life, because they all talk about their jobs/marriages/kids. I’ll stick to my JDM porn, thanks. Also, it is just a lot for me, energy-wise. The parties never last less than 6 hours and often go for 10. I’m tired just thinking about it. I console myself with the fact that my sister is making spritz cookies for the party. Mmmmm, spritz cookies.

That is all.
 
 
 
lanie: marky markprincesslanie on December 5th, 2013 03:25 am (UTC)
omg i know what you mean about baseball they just traded a great player to the yankees, now we have to hate him so sad.\\

i hope grandpa not in pain. i think that's what parent/grandparents do tell you not to worry or visit, they don't want to be a burden. mine do the same, i do the same to my kids lol.

enjoy your cookies, maybe she'll make you xtra so you can go hide somewhere with them lol. hugs.
dodger_sister: sportsdodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:02 am (UTC)
I always get such a smile out of your baseball icon!

omg i know what you mean about baseball they just traded a great player to the yankees, now we have to hate him so sad.

I'd heard about that! I just console myself with the fact that we didn't lose anyone to those fucking Yanks, man. No matter any rivalries between teams, at least we all hate the Yankees.

i hope grandpa not in pain. i think that's what parent/grandparents do tell you not to worry or visit, they don't want to be a burden. mine do the same, i do the same to my kids lol.

My sister saw Grandpa earlier this week and says he seems to be doing really well, relatively speaking for Grandpa, but still, that sounds good.

Oh, I know for sure Grandma says these things because she doesn't want to be a burden, but it never occurs to her that we enjoy our visits with her. We enjoyed going to visit her even as kids and sitting at her table chatting away with her. For some reason she thinks we now have better things to do, but she's my Grandma, I love visits with her!

enjoy your cookies, maybe she'll make you xtra so you can go hide somewhere with them lol. hugs.

I did get to hide away during part of the party (the bonus of being sick is nobody questions when you 'go take a nap' - re: hide in my room and play on my IPad), but I had to wait until after the party for more cookies. There were only about 8 left too! Sis promises she will make more for our smaller more immediate family gathering on Christmas though!
bugeyedmonsterbugeyedmonster on December 5th, 2013 04:56 am (UTC)
Ouch. Poor Grandpa.

Your grandma sounds awesome.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:06 am (UTC)
Ouch. Poor Grandpa.

He surprisingly seems to be doing really well since the fall - or as well as he ever is, but still, 'not worse' is something!

Your grandma sounds awesome.

My grandma IS awesome, thank you! When I was a kid, she always use to tell me to 'keep an eye out for a cute doctor for her' and my mother says as a consequence I took to asking doctors if they were married or not. "For my grandma," I would say, at like the age of four. (it apparently didn't occur to me that Granbdma was married to Grandpa though!)
Kate: Weasleys familyceitfianna on December 5th, 2013 05:59 am (UTC)
*hugs* I hope your Grandpa does okay whatever that means for him.

Also I hear you on family, mine's smaller but during Thanksgiving at my brother's, there was brother, his wife, her parents, two nieces, cousin of theirs, my sister, me and my parents and then later a couple that's friends of ours plus their three kids. By the time it was all done, I was happy for quiet, I'm all for my brother doing lots of the cooking and holiday planning but breaks are nice.
dodger_sister: siblingsdodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:09 am (UTC)
*hugs* I hope your Grandpa does okay whatever that means for him.

Thanks, babe. He actually seems to have bounced back pretty well from the fall, but somedays I'm not sure that's a good thing. He's 94 - how much more can his body take, you know? Still, he isn't in pain from the shoulder and I will take that as a blessing.

Also I hear you on family,

Yep. I love my family, but I prefer smaller doses of people and smaller doses of time! (we're Irish Catholic on that side though - we don't know the meaning of the word 'smaller') Your family gathering sounds like it was full-up, but you got to see your nieces at least! (that's the one thing I really enjoy about these gatherings, is seeing all the kids!)
Kate: Charles+Raven-here to hold youceitfianna on December 13th, 2013 04:15 am (UTC)
Yes, I"m that way too. My family's smaller but growing up for me was mainly my parents and some siblings but not all. Holidays at times can be a lot and I like the smaller times best.
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on December 5th, 2013 12:28 pm (UTC)
Boo on the trade! Sounds like a dumb thing to have done (says the girl who knows nothing about baseball, but hey, supportive, right?).

Yeah, there's no way you can NOT visit. I really hope that your grandpa can at least maintain where he is, if that's possible; hopefully he'll at least make it through the holidays with you.

Argh, that's a LOT of people for a LONG time. We don't party more than about three hours at a pop these days....
dodger_sister: grumpydodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:15 am (UTC)
Boo on the trade! Sounds like a dumb thing to have done (says the girl who knows nothing about baseball, but hey, supportive, right?).

IT WAS DUMB, THANK YOU! His counterpart at third base has been very sad all over the news outlets about it - They broke up the boys, man!

Yeah, there's no way you can NOT visit. I really hope that your grandpa can at least maintain where he is, if that's possible; hopefully he'll at least make it through the holidays with you.

Grandpa seems to be doing pretty well since the fall, all things considered, and I am grateful we didn't lose him now, so close to the holidays. But at 94, his body has been fighting long enough, you know.

I love visits with Grandma - Idk why she can't understand that of all of the crazy shit we have to get done every week, visiting her is one we actually look forward too.

Argh, that's a LOT of people for a LONG time. We don't party more than about three hours at a pop these days....

It only lasted SIX HOURS! I think that might be the shortest party we've ever thrown. It went okay, but I felt awful for most of it and my cousin got so drunk that he went past humorous to rude and that was NOT fun. The food was good though and I got to see my two youngest cousins and meet their girlfriends, which was super nice. I never see those boys for some reason.
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on December 13th, 2013 12:22 pm (UTC)
Silly managers of the boys of summer! They made a manly third baseman all weepy! What are they thinking?? (<---- more support)

He just might, as you said a comment or three ago, be ready to go. But that doesn't make it any easier for the people left behind! Maybe you can make Grandma understand how much you love visiting her.

Wow, short party! With at least some good parts despite feeling bad, so yay on that.
ericadawn16ericadawn16 on December 6th, 2013 01:42 am (UTC)
Usually when people say "don't trouble yourself", then it's a trick and they DO want that.

Of course, I have also become very cynical with things like that. For example, when other women say "honey", "sweetie" or anything that SHOULD be construed as nice, I cringe because I've been called those endearments too many times by those who felt they were superior to me.
dodger_sister: grumpydodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:20 am (UTC)
Usually when people say "don't trouble yourself", then it's a trick and they DO want that.

That would be my mom. My Grandma actually just thinks she is a burden and that we have more important things to do with our young lives than sit around with an old woman, but fuck that, she's our Grandma! My mom is the one that says the opposite of what she wants, so she can be all 'woe is me' about it all.

Of course, I have also become very cynical with things like that. For example, when other women say "honey", "sweetie" or anything that SHOULD be construed as nice, I cringe because I've been called those endearments too many times by those who felt they were superior to me.

Word on that! I am 35 and often get mistaken for 17. And I am physically disabled which people just look at me and assume mentally disabled and I get 'honey-ed' and 'sweetie-ed' all the time and it is condescending as all get out and I loathe it! I totally feel you on that one.
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on December 6th, 2013 07:51 am (UTC)
Spritz cookies! Send me some cookies!

I am sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know how difficult it can be (my grandmother is 95 now and slipping into senility).

And as for the holidays -- they can be stressful. But it sounds as though once you do get past that awkward stage, you'll have fun.

I was going to spend about 10 days in Seattle as I do each year, but I have changed my plans and now am flying out of Seattle on Christmas day to go to Fairbanks, Alaska. My friend and I have been talking about traveling to try to see the Aurora Borealis and were considering going to Iceland this summer. But I read an article that said December was supposed to be a good month to see the AB and Fairbanks is usually a good bet so we're giving it a shot. I'll spend Christmas Eve with my mom's side of the family and then will probably go up again at the end of January to see my Dad.

It is going to be cold as hell, but hopefully it will be worth it!
dodger_sister: siblingsdodger_sister on December 13th, 2013 02:26 am (UTC)
Spritz cookies! Send me some cookies!

NO! lol There were only 8 left and I ate them!

I am sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know how difficult it can be (my grandmother is 95 now and slipping into senility).

Yeah, the shoulder seems to be doing okay now, but he's 94 and he's been unaware of where he is for almost two years now - like he knows that he knows us when he sees us, he knows 'family' but he doesn't know our names or how we are related to him unless we explain it to him. I find that a sad way to live. I don't ever want to get there, you know.

And as for the holidays -- they can be stressful. But it sounds as though once you do get past that awkward stage, you'll have fun.

I got to visit with my youngest cousins and met their serious girlfriends and that was super nice. But I felt pretty awful and my one cousin got drunk and acted like an ass and I was the only person willing to call him out on it. /shakes head/ Family. The next gathering will just be me and sis, mom, brother, s-i-l and the two kids. That'll be better!

I was going to spend about 10 days in Seattle as I do each year, but I have changed my plans and now am flying out of Seattle on Christmas day to go to Fairbanks, Alaska. My friend and I have been talking about traveling to try to see the Aurora Borealis

You're going on a legit Christmas adventure! That sounds so fucking cool! (and cold, but worth it!) Pictures or it didn't happen!