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24 February 2015 @ 04:33 pm
I Am In Love...  
…with a cat. Okay, let me start by saying that I think my sister’s biological clock is screaming at her that time is running out, but instead of being all, “I want to have a kid!”, she wants to adopt a French Bulldog puppy and dress it up in little outfits. This is actually right on target for her. But there are some issues with this idea. Like disrupting the cats in the house. The amount of time it would take to house-train the dog. The amount a Frenchie costs. The health issues they have. The fact that we are against buying from breeders. The fact that we are against breeding dogs that will knowingly have major health issues and high risk of death. The way they actually breed these particular dogs - (look it up if you want to know, but don’t say I didn’t warn you). On the other hand, Frenchies are cute as fuck and make the most adorable noises and are so good-tempered about everything. At this point, my sister has decided that getting a dog on a whim is a bad idea and that she needs to do more research and wait 6 months. If she is still serious about it then, we will revisit the idea. This all sounds reasonable.

But in the meantime, I went on the internet to local shelters and humane societies to try to find another small, good-tempered dog that might fit her bill and erase all those pesky moral issues I am having with the idea. And instead of finding a dog - (though Betty the Beagle was totally cute and I personally have always wanted a beagle) - I found a cat.


A beautiful amazing cat. Her name is Maleficent and she is 8 years old and timid, but gets on well with other cats. (Not dogs though, which would be a problem if we got the Frenchie). I fell in love with her at once.



And my sister says I can have her if I want, but then I can’t get kittens when Roo dies. I have been wanting kittens since I lost Papa Bear - (I already have their names picked out, Kenzi & Parker) - but our house rule is that when the older ones pass, we get new kittens. Then when the next set pass, we get new kittens. So that we will always have a set of senior cats and set of younger cats in the house. My boys are the older set and I lost Buddy in October, so the next set will be mine. Unless I get Maleficent. When the write-up said she was ‘senior’ I thought like 12 or something. But no, she is 8. Which means she’ll live another 5 years at least. Five years when you have my health and my body is a lifetime. It could very well actually mean ‘never’ because who knows my state in five years. And more importantly, Roo has paid his dues. He waited out Papa and Buddy and he spent 3 years living at my mom’s when I was in the apartment and now it is his time to have Mommy all to himself. He isn’t an overly affectionate cat or super clingy, but since Buddy died he has gotten territorial about me. I am his mommy, no one else come near me. But Idk, maybe Maleficent won’t be an overly needy cat. Or maybe Roo won’t give a shit that she is here. Idk, the right thing to do for the cats we have now is to not get her, but she is so beautiful and I feel heartbroken, like for real, not to be able to have her. But I also want Roo to enjoy his golden years the most that he can, because I love my beautiful boy and he is the last of my babies.

My sister asked me what I want to do and I said, “I want to get Maleficent and I want to get Kenzi & Parker and I want Roo to live forever.”
 
 
 
Shirebound: Pippin gazeshirebound on February 24th, 2015 10:09 pm (UTC)
This could be a big year for you and sis and furry family! I hope she can find a French Bulldog from a rescue. (And when I was searching Petfinders for a dog, I filtered the searches to only those who were housetrained.)
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:18 pm (UTC)
This could be a big year for you and sis and furry family! I hope she can find a French Bulldog from a rescue. (And when I was searching Petfinders for a dog, I filtered the searches to only those who were housetrained.)

I would love it if we could get a French Bulldog from a rescue but they cost like $2,500 so who would buy one and then abandon it? I'll keep Petfinders in mind though, as that will definitely help! I actually housetrained two puppies at once when I was a teen, one that had a kidney issue and had to go out all the time at first, so between me and Sis I think we can housetrain a dog, but I'd certainly rather not have to if we don't.

It looks like I am probably not getting the cat I wanted. She has issues with dogs and if I got her, it would completely take the bulldog off the table for my sister and I don't want to do that to her. She has her heart set on this dog idea! I am pretty sad about Maleficent though.
lindahoylandlindahoyland on February 25th, 2015 12:06 am (UTC)
She is a gorgeous cat. I've found it OK to have old Leo and young Harry together.I like having 2 cats. Those dog breeds with flat faces have dreadful health and would cost a fortune in vet's bills. I personally don't think it fair to have a cat or dog as a child substitute as they can only be themselves. I've no children, but see my cats as friends and companions.

Good luck with it all. Is your home big enough for the cats to have their own space? I had 2 cats that hated each other for 16 years but coped as they lived in their own rooms with little contact.

Edited at 2015-02-25 02:06 am (UTC)
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:28 pm (UTC)
She is a gorgeous cat. I've found it OK to have old Leo and young Harry together.

Yes, isn't she beautiful? I think Maleficent would do just fine with the younger cats, Kirk & Pippin, but I worry about how my older boy, Roo, will do with me having another cat. He doesn't much care for my sister and he already has to share me with the younger boys while Sis is at work and I just don't want to ruin his final years, I want to spoil him. But I want to spoil Maleficent too!

I like having 2 cats.

Sis and I discussed a plan when our older two cats passed away a few years back and we were left with two sets of brothers. Our plan is to always have two sets of siblings with at least five years between them. I think it is good to have two young cats because then they can play with each other and keep each other company when we are busy or not at home. And also having a younger set in the house keeps the older set active. We like the idea of a set of older and set of younger. And Maleficent would throw a wrench in that household order. I feel so sad about it, but I know the right thing to do is not to get her. Especially if Sis wants a dog in the fall.

Those dog breeds with flat faces have dreadful health and would cost a fortune in vet's bills.

Yeah, the money issue is the only reason I can see that my sister would NOT go for the dog. My cousin is a vet tech and really played up to her how much bulldogs can cost in vet bills and how even then, sometimes they just don't live very long.

I personally don't think it fair to have a cat or dog as a child substitute as they can only be themselves. I've no children, but see my cats as friends and companions.

Yeah, but my sister doesn't want kids, has never wanted kids. She wants a dog apparently. I just think given her age and her sudden urge to get a dog out of nowhere, that it must be some mix up with her biological clock. lol

Good luck with it all. Is your home big enough for the cats to have their own space? I had 2 cats that hated each other for 16 years but coped as they lived in their own rooms with little contact.

Yes, for sure. We have 1,200 square feet main floor and another 600 square feet basement and lots of open space and high up perches and cat beds/areas for them to be away from each other. So that wouldn't be a problem, even with four cats and a dog, which is what it looks like we'll have in the next few years!
Kate: taking wingceitfianna on February 25th, 2015 01:19 am (UTC)
*hugs* Aww, beautiful kitty and what a complicated choice. I vote for all the cats though the plan with the kittens makes a lot of sense.
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:32 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Aww, beautiful kitty and what a complicated choice. I vote for all the cats though the plan with the kittens makes a lot of sense.

What I clearly want is to have Pippin, Kirk, Roo, Maleficent, Parker, Kenzi and Violet (what J wants to name the french bulldog - Violet) and have them all be happy and comfortable and spoiled and have all the time to give all of them, forever. Allo, I would like Papa and Buddy back, since we are talking fairy tales here. I have decided against Maleficent, even though my heart is broken and I feel almost like I had a cat pass away, but she does not do well with dogs and if I got her, J couldn't get Violet. J hasn't gotten this excited about a pet since Zippo passed away, like I think this would be really good for her stress levels to have this little pup at her heels and she deserves it and if I get Maleficent, the dog is off the table. So I made the choice not to get her, even though I am so sad.
Jo Ann: Cats: Kitten looking down from up highyeuxdebleu on February 25th, 2015 04:38 am (UTC)
And my sister says I can have her if I want, but then I can’t get kittens when Roo dies.

I don't understand. Are you living in your sister's house or why do you have to do what she says?

I personally don't like any kind of bulldogs. I just don't care for their flat faces and like lindahoyland said, they usually have breathing problems and need a lot of vet care. There are so many thousands of lovely dogs and puppies at rescue places who need homes. I would look for a dog there rather than buy a pure bred from some breeder.

I'm a cat person so I am definitely in favor the cats. Maleficent is a beautiful cat and it sounds like she would fit right in. But please do change her name. I associate Maleficent is evil and such a pretty kitty deserves a more pleasant name.
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:42 pm (UTC)
I don't understand. Are you living in your sister's house or why do you have to do what she says?

I do live with my sister and on top of that, she is my care provider, which means she does all the animal care; litter boxes, feeding, vet trips. I do snuggles and toys! We made a household decision years back about how we would always have two sets of siblings, an older set and a younger set. I get the next set but if I get Maleficent then I break the house plan and can't get kittens as well. We cannot have six or even five cats in this house - that would be ridiculous. Four is our agreed upon number. And I do have to defer to this because she is the one doing all the work and when you are disabled, you have to depend on others like that.

I personally don't like any kind of bulldogs. I just don't care for their flat faces

It's the flat-face that my sister likes, I think. I admit, I think it is cute, but the breathing issues bother me some. We looked at other dog options and my sister kept picking out ones with a flat-face, so I guess that's what she's looking for! I think the health issues and the vet bills may be the one reason she doesn't get the dog, but even that, Idk, she seems really excited and happy about this dog idea and I love seeing her so excited and happy for a change. She does so much for everyone else, I want her to spoil herself for once.

I'm a cat person so I am definitely in favor the cats. Maleficent is a beautiful cat and it sounds like she would fit right in. But please do change her name. I associate Maleficent is evil and such a pretty kitty deserves a more pleasant name.

Oh no, I would never change her name! She would be Maleficent The Magnificent! She would be the queen of the household! Maleficent is not evil, she was only evil in the story that was told by the rich king. His story paints her as evil, but in her own story, she is the hero. She would be my goddess cat. But unfortunately I don't think I will be getting her. It would be too disruptive to my old cat's lifestyle I think, he only has a few years left, I want them to be golden. Plus, Maleficent does not get on well with dogs and I want my sister to decide on the dog thing herself and not have it taken off the table because of my new cat. Am sad about it though.
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on February 25th, 2015 05:31 am (UTC)
Cats are unpredictable, aren't they? It could be that Roo loves having another cat around or he could hate it. Are you thinking that he'd be more accepting of kittens than an adult cat?
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:48 pm (UTC)
Cats are unpredictable, aren't they? It could be that Roo loves having another cat around or he could hate it. Are you thinking that he'd be more accepting of kittens than an adult cat?

He would definitely be more accepting of kittens. We got Pippin and Kirk as kittens just abut 6 months after I got Roo back from my mom and he was basically living in the basement and it was those kittens that made him come out of his shell again. "Roo, friend, come play! Watch me! Chase me! Love me! Roo, Roo!" That's what I think happened and finally he was like, "Okay, yes, fine, kittens, I will come out and play!" lol If I do get kittens though it wouldn't be until Roo has passed, so he wouldn't have to have his life disrupted in any way for these last few years of his life. He turns 16 in a few days! I feel heartbroken about not getting Maleficent but I think it would be too much for Roo and it would mean my sister could not get the dog she wants because Maleficent does not get on with dogs. I do feel sad about it, like a beloved cat has passed away, but I keep telling myself it is the right thing to do for my beautiful old boy and that someday I will get kittens (Kenzi & Parker!).

But Maleficent The Magnificent is a beautiful cat!
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on March 3rd, 2015 08:04 am (UTC)
16! That is amazing. I can completely understand why you would want to give him some undivided attention (and peace).
wolfrider89: Lev - OT3 cutewolfrider89 on February 27th, 2015 12:01 pm (UTC)
First: I hear you about the breeding thing! Ugh, humans, why would you do that to these poor animals? Like the cat breed, I forget it's name (Siamese? No, Persian, I think) that can't breathe properly cause its nose is all squashed up. Or Labs that will literally eat until they throw up and then keep eating cause they can't tell when they're full. Just... anger, I has it. So I'm with you on that!

Second: OMG, she's adorable! I just want to hug her and pet her a bit. I understand your dilemma, though, cause I'm experiencing something similar. I want to get a cat soooon (after we have a permanent place to live, obviously) and I can't decide if I want a kitten or adopt a shelter cat. Maybe both? Decisions! I hope you can work something out. It's hard to fall in love with an animal and then not be allowed to keep it. <3

Also, Kenzi and Parker are the best names! :D (as is Malicifent, omg!)
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 08:58 pm (UTC)
First: I hear you about the breeding thing! Ugh, humans, why would you do that to these poor animals?

That's how I feel. I was so pissed at my uncle for getting a breed dog and he at least was doing it because he legit needed a hunting dog. What is our excuse for getting a poor bulldog that will have serious breathing issues and cost a fortune, when there is a perfectly good beagle named Betty that we could adopt! (I really liked Betty a lot!) I get really upset about the 'teacup' animals that people breed. Have you seen any of those? They are adorable as fuck but omg, the health issues with those things, they are in actual pain! It makes me sick.

Second: OMG, she's adorable! I just want to hug her and pet her a bit.

I want to bury my face in Maleficent's belly, it looks so soft!

I understand your dilemma, though, cause I'm experiencing something similar. I want to get a cat soooon (after we have a permanent place to live, obviously) and I can't decide if I want a kitten or adopt a shelter cat. Maybe both? Decisions!

We do intend on getting kittens from a shelter or rescue. Like if you pay attention to when they have kittens and get in there quick before they are gone! Until this French bulldog idea came into my sister's head, I never thought we'd get pets from anywhere but a shelter. I certainly intend to get Kenzi & Parker from a shelter when the time comes.

I hope you can work something out. It's hard to fall in love with an animal and then not be allowed to keep it. <3

I feel so heartbroken, like a beloved pet has passed away, but I have decided not to get Maleficent. It would disrupt Roo too much (he turns 16 this week!). I want him to enjoy every minute he has left, not fight for my attention with a new cat. I also know my sister really wants this dog and Maleficent does not like dogs, so there's that. I am so, so sad about it though.

Also, Kenzi and Parker are the best names! :D (as is Malicifent, omg!)

I have some backup names, just in case I get kittens who aren't quite fitting to those names personality wise, but they are all names for my favorite female TV characters - Kenzi from Lost Girl and Parker, obvs, from Leverage and Irisa from Defiance and Tamsin from Lost Girl. But Kenzi & Parker are my top picks in names for new kittens someday! (Also I would have called Maleficent "Maleficent The Magnificent!" or "Her Royal Highness Maleficent The Magnificent!" lol
lizibabes: A&T featherslizibabes on February 27th, 2015 07:11 pm (UTC)
I know we talked about it already, but I had to check out the post and the pic. I can see why you are in love, what a beautiful cat!
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on March 2nd, 2015 09:00 pm (UTC)
I know we talked about it already, but I had to check out the post and the pic. I can see why you are in love, what a beautiful cat!

Isn't she?! I just want to bury my face in her soft, soft belly. She looks like she would smell good too. Ugh. I want her! I have made up mind not to get her, for Roo's sake and for the sake of my sister who still really wants a dog instead, but oh man, I am so heartbroken, like for real. I miss her like I actually had her.
lizibabeslizibabes on March 3rd, 2015 06:58 pm (UTC)
Just keep thinking kittens. You get to have the next batch of kitties.
But I know what you mean. I found the perfect cat in a shelter, but someone got her before I could. And she was so friendly. I was so sad.