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05 March 2013 @ 09:27 pm
Two -s and a +.  
I thought maybe a few Real Life updates were in order.


Apparently The Nephew is not adjusting to the changes of a new baby very well. On top of it, he’s had the flu and his mom is home from work everyday right now and his whole schedule is all messed up. My brother says he’s been having some issues but he won’t talk to either of them and he thought maybe The Nephew’d talk to me instead. I was obviously happy to help, but it was really upsetting to hear The Nephew crying over the phone and saying that he doesn’t know what’s wrong with him. The Nephew just doesn’t handle change very well and he is so much like his dad in that. I remember when my brother was about 6 and we came home from school to find my mom had moved all the furniture around. I thought my brother was going to have a nervous breakdown just from the furniture being moved. And here is The Nephew having all this stuff to deal with. Together The Nephew and I figured out a plan for him, taking a ‘chill out’ minute and then writing in his journal. Sometimes writing it out just helps you feel better.

Also, my mom got bad news that she has to have all her lower teeth pulled. I’ll be straight up, the one good thing about my life expectancy being shorter than most, is that I’ll probably die before I lose my teeth, because that shit freaks me out for some reason. And not to sound harsh, but in general, I don’t have a ton of sympathy for my mom’s health issues - on some things anyways. I mean, she can’t help that she has medical problems but she also never does anything to improve the situation. Her doctor wanted her to see a nutritionist. She didn’t do it. He wanted her to drink Ensure every day. She didn’t do it. He wanted her to go to physical therapy. She didn’t do it. So it’s hard when she says, “Why does this stuff happen to me?” when I know there are some things she could have prevented/delayed by following her doctors advice. But this? This thing with her teeth could not have been prevented and is clearly awful. She has this issue where she doesn’t make enough saliva, and dry gums means unhealthy gums means unhealthy teeth. There’s no way around it. Worse yet, with no saliva, they don’t know if dentures will work for her, so she may just be without bottom teeth, which is just terrible all around.

On the brighter side of things, my dad sent me money! When I moved into my first apartment, I never had enough money left after paying my bills for anything extra, so my dad started giving me like $50 a month so I could see a movie or go with my friends to Detroit to a club or a concert. When I moved in with my mom, Dad started giving me a little more. I think mostly he felt bad that he couldn’t help more, since physically I needed a female care provider. But the money has always been greatly appreciated. But since living with my sister, he knows that she is better positioned to help with the smaller stuff. Still, he helps with the big things. Like he paid for all the gas on my trip to Vermont for D’s wedding. And when I wanted to go to a Supernatural con, I had enough money for myself but obviously I can’t go alone and need someone to assist me, so he paid for my then-BFF’s ticket, so someone could come along. So I’m not sure why he sent me this check, since I have no major trips planned, but it was nice. I had been making a list and trying to figure how to save for something special for my sister’s 40th birthday this June, getting my hair cut, taking the cats to the groomers, and also The Nephew’s, The Canadian Nephew’s & The BFF’s birthdays in May. Plus, I just threw out a garbage bag size of clothes that didn’t fit anymore, so I needed new clothes. I couldn’t afford it all so I had to cut the new clothes from my list. With the money Dad just sent me, I was actually able to go out and get myself some new stuff; two new tees, a new blouse and a new dress. I called him and thanked him and he was happy to hear I got to treat myself a little.
 
 
 
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dodger_sister: teen!deandodger_sister on March 6th, 2013 09:20 pm (UTC)
Kids really can't handle changes to their schedule. Hell, I'm almost 35 and I can barely handle it! ;) I think once he gets back to school and his mom gets back to work and a new schedule is set more into place, he'll get into the rhythmn of things. It's just hard to have my boy so upset right now.

Dad is awesome! It was just so unexpected and came at such a great time too, since I was literally counting every dollar trying to figure how to make it all work.
Shireboundshirebound on March 6th, 2013 02:53 am (UTC)
That's awful about your mom's teeth. :(

How awesome of your Dad to help you out. When you get to be my age you might need to help your *Dad* out (the way I need to), which is a nice balance to life.

Yay, new clothes. :)

Edited at 2013-03-06 01:25 pm (UTC)
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on March 6th, 2013 09:26 pm (UTC)
My mom was obviously devasted about the teeth. I think she could have handled it if not for their uncertainty about whether or not dentures will work for her. Not knowing for sure and facing down such a major change is anxiety causing to say the least.

The money from Dad was awesome indeed! Some of the new clothes have arrived already and the blouse I got is uber cute!

When you get to be my age you might need to help your *Dad* out (the way I need to), which is a nice balance to life.

Thankfully not with my dad. As a retired disabled veteran, he is well cared for by the government, plus he worked for years as a tool'n'dye worker, so he has a nice pension. He will, however, be that crazy guy who refuses to leave his house long after he should be in assisted care, but at least we won't have to worry about money with him. Our mom is a whole different story though.
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on March 6th, 2013 02:58 am (UTC)
The Nephew is lucky to have you, and I know you feel lucky to have him. He'll get through it, and I bet the journal will really help.

Did you know that losing teeth is a uniquely female nightmare? Like, a literal nightmare that many women have? I know it always freaks me out when I dream of it. Hopefully your mom's situation won't be quite as bad as they're predicting. :(

Unexpected Daddy-money is the best! (And yeah, that sort of made me think of naughty Supernatural fics. I BLAME YOU. I never used to go there with SLASH thoughts. *shakes head*)
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on March 6th, 2013 09:36 pm (UTC)
I think once The Nephew's household gets on a new schedule, he'll adjust. Plus, we intend to invite him to stay with us for a week over his spring break, so hopefully that'll give him the break he needs.

In the meantime, yeah, hopefully writing in the journal will help. I gave him a few suggestions and that was the only one he liked. :)

Did you know that losing teeth is a uniquely female nightmare? Like, a literal nightmare that many women have?

I did NOT know that! I have that dream like twice a month AT LEAST. It's weird, I had it the other night too (only Derek from Teen Wolf was there? IDEK). I hate that dream!

It is possible that Mom will be able to use dentures but no one who has weighed in on the situation seems to think it will happen, so besides facing this awful thing, Mom also has to deal with all the uncertainty, which sucks.

Unexpected Daddy-money is the best! (And yeah, that sort of made me think of naughty Supernatural fics. I BLAME YOU. I never used to go there with SLASH thoughts. *shakes head*)

OKAY, first of all, EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWW. That's my actual dad we're talking about! Stop it!!!!!! I just call him 'Dad'. 'Daddy' means something else entirely. (my brain does go straight to John Winchester when I hear that word, but not in a slashy way so I won't take the blame for that!). Once I heard my friend K's teenage daughter call him 'daddy' and I put my hands over my face and he turned around and was like, "You stop that right now!" lol

Uh, yeah, what were we talking about? My new clothes are awesome! The blouse is super cute and I can't wait for the dress to get here too!
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on March 7th, 2013 01:01 am (UTC)
I hate that dream too. I usually don't get it as often as you do, but I ALWAYS get it after seeing my long-term acquaintance who is so overweight and takes such bad care of himself that he has broken one foot or the other THREE times just from walking, had a spider bite that landed him in the hospital because he let it get infected, and has lost most of his upper teeth from horrible hygiene. His grin is pretty mightmarish, because some are broken off while others are just missing.

You know, I think that euwwww was TOTALLY deserved after everything you've said about knotting.... Let me see, how did you put it? "YOU'RE SO FRAGILE." Mua ha ha!
dodger_sister: jeffrey dean morgandodger_sister on March 7th, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
Sometimes I get the 'losing my teeth' dreams if I forgot to brush before bed and my mouth feels all icky, or also if I have fluid in my ears because it like makes my glands and jaw feel weird, I think. It was the ears that caused the odd Teen Wolf teeth dream the other night.

Your friend sounds like he should get together with my mom so they can discuss their awful health and how they don't take care of themselves ever.

You know, all the talk of John Winchester and knotting is really good for me. Let's talk about it some more. When John Winchester knots someone, do you think it's a breeding thing or just the effect of him and his general alpha-male self? Yeah, that's right, I WIN!!!!!!!! SUCK IT!!! TAKE YOUR FRAGILE SELF TO BED, WOMAN!!! ;)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on March 7th, 2013 02:04 am (UTC)
I think it's because he's a closet werewolf, and that's the reason he kept leaving the boys alone so often. And it's only EIGHT here!
dodger_sister: jeffrey dean morgandodger_sister on March 7th, 2013 03:11 am (UTC)
Omg. I am so torn right now. Otoh, John as a werewolf is such an intriguing idea. Otoh, I don't want porn of it. I know, right?! I am just as shocked as you are. I draw the line at porn involving actual wolves though, or like wolf/human, just, NO, cuz I had this nightmare one night and just, I can't. But exploring John's secret werewolf life - oh yeah, I want that!

And it's only EIGHT here!

No, no, I meant you should go to bed before you faint, because you are fragile. ;) I swear, I have been like this all day. It's either the joint pain (sucks today) or just your terrible influence on me (you get me all riled up!). Or, yeah okay, this may just be my natural state of being. 8)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on March 7th, 2013 03:30 am (UTC)
Of course, Sammy would figure it out just as soon as he knew that werewolves existed in the first place. Because he's smart like that. (What if John made Madison and the other guy was just a scapegoatwolf? Would that sort of make her Sam's littermate? :P)

Door number three: natural state of being. NOT MY FAULT AT ALL EVER, YO.
dodger_sister: samdeandodger_sister on March 9th, 2013 10:38 pm (UTC)
(What if John made Madison and the other guy was just a scapegoatwolf? Would that sort of make her Sam's littermate? :P)

a) What if John were still alive and Madison had the chance to kill him to rid herself of this 'curse' but also she was in love with Sam at the same time?!

b) Did you just turn this into incestuous werewolf sex? 8)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on March 10th, 2013 01:03 pm (UTC)
a) I would totally read that!

b) Um. No! Well. Maaaaaybe. ;)
Kate: happy face Tumnusceitfianna on March 6th, 2013 04:30 am (UTC)
Aww, poor nephew, writing stuff out and having someone to talk with helps a lot. I spent three hours of today just talking with the librarian at the other campus and it was amazing to hear that she's had some of the same issues and I'm on the right path.

I hope your Mom's okay without her teeth and yay for your dad being sweet, new clothes are good. I really need to get more pants at some point.
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on March 6th, 2013 09:41 pm (UTC)
I think the journal writing will help The Nephew, if for nothing else just to feel like he is doing something proactive about his messy life right now. Hopefully we'll be able to arrange a stay over his spring break too.

I spent three hours of today just talking with the librarian at the other campus and it was amazing to hear that she's had some of the same issues and I'm on the right path.

WONDERFUL. I am glad you finally had a real down-to-it conversation with her about everything. I figured she had to have experienced some of that same bullshit along the way, but it's nice to be able to confirm that it's not just something coming down on you.

It's going to take a couple of appointments for them to sort everything with my mom. I am still hoping someone will come up with an idea that will work for her and dentures. I am restrained from giving her false hope on that though.

Dad was awesome with the money and now I have a cute new blouse that I tried on last night!
lizibabes: A&T featherslizibabes on March 6th, 2013 10:11 pm (UTC)
Poor nephew, change can be hard, I hope things get easier for him, your right that writing about it can help a lot.

That sucks about your Mom, health is a complicated thing and I've felt the way you have before, with people who don't seem to try and improve their health. I hope the treatment works out for her.

Your Dad sounds really sweet, I'm glad you could treat yourself to a few things.
dodger_sister: wee!deandodger_sister on March 7th, 2013 01:52 am (UTC)
Actually...since making this post and since replying to the other comments, new things have happened! It turns out the doctor had put The Nephew on something for the virus he had last week (something called Tamiflu which I have heard nothing but terrible stuff about) and it causes mood changes and aggression. Since they took him off it, his mood has started clearing up. I mean, it could have been the talk with his awesome aunt that did it (I am awesome! lol) but I think it was probably the medicine all along! I am relieved.

I've felt the way you have before, with people who don't seem to try and improve their health

I hate saying things like that about my mom but it gets frustrating to have her complaining about something and then to be like, "Well, what does the doctor say?" and have her go, "Oh, I didn't tell him about it." I don't know how to really feel pity for someone that won't even address her own issues. I think given that I have had bad health my whole life and have had to address a bunch of shit I really didn't want to, I get kind of side-eye about things like this.

Having the teeth pulled may help her overall health (you know what they say about good clean mouth being good for your health?) but if she can't wear dentures, how utterly awful. I am still going to hold onto a little hope that they'll find an answer though.

It's weird because the older my dad gets, the more he is that guy who will literally help you out if you need it and he has a way to help. He wasn't like that when we were kids but it's nice now. He literally took one of my brother's friends home from the hospital once and gave the kid a room and a bed and the kid has been living with my dad ever since.

And my new clothes have already started arriving!
lizibabes: A&T whisperlizibabes on March 7th, 2013 07:59 pm (UTC)
So glad he's doing better, I've heard nothing but bad things about that medican to, my mother was on it once and it made her so sick. But I agree, the awesome Aunt talk probably helped a lot to :D

Frustrating is the right word, I know a lot of people who won't go to doctors about stuff, where as I've always really had to, so I don't get it.

That's so kind of him, taking in a kid like that, wow.

Oh yay!! I do love gettng new cloths, I'm not always girly, but I like pretty things lol