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20 April 2013 @ 05:12 pm
That Answer Is Incorrect.  
I feel like I've posted a lot this week, but I had to get this one off my chest. It's been bugging me since yesterday.

When a medical professional asks me a medical-orientated question…I answer them. They are a professional and we are suppose to be partners in my health care.

The correct answer to details about my health history is not..."Oh, you poor thing."

It is especially not the correct answer when you are suppose to be a professional. I expect that kind of bullshit from little old ladies - which is why I tend not to answer those kinds of questions when asked by little old ladies or well, anyone I don't know enough to be able to gauge what their reaction will be.

But as a medical professional, if you ask me a question that pertains to my treatment, I will answer you. I'm not going to be all, "That's personal," to someone whom I am entrusting my body and health with.

But the answer is never, under any circumstances, "Oh, you poor thing."

I even gave her just the quick, 90 second summary of when the arthritis kicked in, which answered her question, yes the damage now is from years of living with the disease, and yes those years have encompassed most of my life.

But, just...no, lady. This is the same girl who does my massage sometimes that I think she doesn't do it aggressive enough. And before that, I had been working with The Kid, a nice young guy who is very funny and silly and likes to talk about movies and TV with me, but she came over and kicked him out so that she could take over. Maybe this is why I have never been that comfortable with her, because I could sense that would be her reaction to things like this. Whereas, The Kid would probably be like, "Dude, that bites ass," and my actual PT would just have the professional restraint not to make any comment on it, other than to ask other medically relevant questions.

Anyways, that happened and I was 'grrr' for a bit, but hopefully typing it out will help me let it go. On the upside, I’ve gotten a lot of movement back in my shoulder that I was losing and my PT and I had a good talk about what things I am still having trouble with and decided to focus on rotation movement for awhile. I just miss the days when therapy didn’t feel quite so much like going to the doctor.
 
 
 
ranuaranua on April 23rd, 2013 02:29 am (UTC)
I'm sorry your day at therapy kinda sucked. It sounds like this girl has a case of thinking very highly of herself. Butting in when you were already working with someone (aide or not) and then treating you with condescension. Is this the same person who discounted your assessment/knowledge of how you were doing a while back?

Imo a word with her direct supervisor might do the trick, hell it'd probably be a good idea. Like feedback or a comment card. If she doesn't know she's doing wrong, she'll never fix it.

That's lovely news about the improvement in your shoulder. I'll keep a good thought for you, babe.
dodger_sister: angrydodger_sister on April 29th, 2013 12:05 am (UTC)
I'm sorry your day at therapy kinda sucked. It sounds like this girl has a case of thinking very highly of herself.

And you know how that irks me! When someone thinks their schooling makes them somehow know better than me the person who lives in the body. You'd be surprised how many professionals though, people who had years of training, say the completely wrong thing to someone who is suffering. Once, when I started crying over something a doctor had told me, she then lectured me on how I need to be an inspiration for others. Which is never the right thing to say, let alone when someone is seriously ill and getting bad news!

Is this the same person who discounted your assessment/knowledge of how you were doing a while back?

I can't recall for sure, but probably. In the last year, she's the only person I've had a real issue with (besides the dude who didn't believe me that I need heat!)

Imo a word with her direct supervisor might do the trick, hell it'd probably be a good idea.

I thought about it, but it's so weird because I know these people so well by now that it feels odd to complain. I wish I had said something in the moment. It would have been less confrontational if when she had said it, I had just been like, "Uh, no. Disabled people don't want your pity - they get that enough from everyone else." Idk, the last session went better, so hopefully it won't be an issue again.

That's lovely news about the improvement in your shoulder. I'll keep a good thought for you, babe.

Thank you! I am already back to being able to do a few of the tasks I hadn't been able to in awhile, so it's def helping.