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17 June 2013 @ 08:18 pm
Weekend Update With Dodger_Sister.  
So the Birthday Weekend went very well! The weather was not 100% but we worked around it. We were outside with our feet in the pool for a half hour or so when it started to rain. It was just sprinkles and our feet were already wet, so what the hell. But then it started to rain harder. Luckily there is an overhang where we have the picnic table and the grill, so we could stay outside. And why yes, we did watch The Hobbit for the 5th or 6th time since it came out in the theater - what of it? We also watched the Community Paintball Trilogy, the pilot of Defiance, some S2 SPN (Nightshifter & Folsom Prison Blues) and the girls watched some Pretty Little Liars in the morning.

There was great food too, like an orgasm in my mouth. The grilled apricot was like a taste explosion! And the chicken and veggies were glazed with some kind of peanut sauce and it was heavenly. But the best were the tiny little potatoes. Besides being all wee and cute (and purple!) they were the best thing my mouth has ever tasted. I'm not even kidding. We had the leftovers tonight and I have never been so excited for dinner in my life. It was ridiculous. (And there is just enough left for one more meal!)

Oh, also...dudes, The Sister's BFF brought her one extra present I didn't know about. She got her the official WETA replica of Thorin's map! It's so cool. And if you hold it up to the light, you can see the runes!! My sis is going to take it in to a framing place and see if they can help her get a light-box for it. I can't wait for The Nephew to see it!

The only downside was my mother trying to insert herself into the weekend. I know she is the birthday girl's mom and all, but I was very specific about wanting my sister to have the weekend away from all her normal things and to just spend it with her BFF - (who she only gets to see twice a year and who hasn't been to visit in Michigan since 2011). But on Friday my mom called and was like, "What time is this thing?" I had been emphasizing over and over for weeks to my mom how this wasn't going to be a 'thing' or a ‘party', because my mom has this bad habit of inviting people to things that they aren't actually invited too. (Once she invited herself and a bunch of other people to the christening/luncheon for my cousin's kid's baptism. Which, obvs, my cousin was not prepared for). So I reiterated, "It's not a thing. It's just Oselle visiting for the weekend." - "Oh well. when is cake? Because you said I could come for cake." Uh, no, I did not. I told my sister she could invite whoever she wanted, but I don't presume to invite people to other people's parties. And my sister opted not to invite anyone at all - no cousins, brother. work friends - because she gets to spend so little time with her bff as it is. So I very forcefully told my mom, "She's not doing anything this weekend. She's not taking any calls, no one's to stop over, no one's to bother her. This is her weekend." Because my sister spends so much time doing for others and being polite and nice and putting others ahead of herself and for just one weekend, I wanted her to not have to put anyone in front of her own needs.

What did my mom do? She bought my sister some flowers and brought them over - which seems like a nice gesture, but she did it just so she had an excuse to come over when I told her not to. Then she told my sister, "I can't stay because I'm was told that I'm not allowed to be here," and my sister started to make polite excuses and I said, "No, she's right. That's what I said." I don’t care - I’ll be the bad guy as long as no one bothers my sister with stupid shit. The Sister said it was fine and she liked the flowers, but to me it was a very clear passive-aggressive ‘fuck you’ from Mom, delivered straight to me. That’s how my mom rolls - she makes it look like she is just trying to do something nice so she can play the victim about it. /shakes head/

That minor annoyance aside...Very. Excellent. Weekend.
Denidenig37 on June 18th, 2013 12:29 am (UTC)
Bad mom is bad, still better than my grand mother with calling us (her grand daughters) whores and calling our mom a lying bitch.

So you cann definitely say that it could be worse *nods*

Happy your sis had great birthday though :-D
dodger_sister: annoyeddodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:25 am (UTC)
my grand mother with calling us (her grand daughters) whores and calling our mom a lying bitch.

Oh my god, that awful! My (now passed)-grandmother used to call various female members of the family (none of whom were overweight) 'fat' all the time, but never whores or lying bitches. See, I think that would be the point where I would cut ties. That's just uncool. /hugs/

So you cann definitely say that it could be worse *nods*

Don't I know it. /sigh/ Hell, most days I am just happy when Mom isn't having a manic episode, let alone comparing to her the mothers of some friends of mine (I've got at least one drunk and one drug addict mom on the list).

Happy your sis had great birthday though :-D

She really, really did - it was lovely!
Shireboundshirebound on June 18th, 2013 01:11 am (UTC)
Grilled apricots! *wants*
dodger_sister: fooddodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:27 am (UTC)
Grilled apricots! *wants*

Omg, woman, soooo good! There were two in my leftovers and I saved them for last, because they were the best, even reheated. Grilled apricots = something I never knew I loved!
Kate: Charles+Raven-here to hold youceitfianna on June 18th, 2013 01:58 am (UTC)
*hugs* Your mom sucks but you were making the weekend for your sister. I'm glad it turned out.
dodger_sister: miscdodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:31 am (UTC)
Your mom sucks but you were making the weekend for your sister.

Exactly. For just one weekend I wanted it to be about J and no one else. Her BFF was literally only here for 48 hours and my mom couldn't stand it that I told her she had to stay for that long.

I'm glad it turned out.

It really did though, yeah. Someone at therapy said, "It's so nice that you treated your sister so good for the day," and I said, "Well, she treats me good everyday," because she really does.

On a side note: she might still be carrying that Bilbo standee around with her from room to room, yes.
Kate: candy raspberriesceitfianna on June 20th, 2013 01:34 am (UTC)
Hee, that's wonderful and those standees are great.

I ended up heading to the zoo today, it was just what I needed. I took a lot of pictures that I will end up sharing and it was great. The only downside was I tripped and scraped my elbow and my ankle isn't happy but it was great. All the kids with families and camps were out which made it busy but not too busy.

Oh and I wrote another XMFC fic, for that prompt fest I linked to. Emma and Raven which I wasn't planning. The prompt was interesting and wouldn't leave me alone. Here's the link Harder than Steel, its femslash. I feel like my writing brain has come alive.
dodger_sister: miscdodger_sister on June 24th, 2013 12:20 am (UTC)
J is driving me nuts with the Bilbo standee! She keeps putting it in different rooms and trying to startle me!

Is your ankle feeling better from the fall at the zoo?

Oh and I wrote another XMFC fic, for that prompt fest I linked to

Read it! I liked Raven kind of noticing the difference between Charles and Emma and I liked the way Emma observed Raven. It's a pairing that totally makes sense, now that I've thought about it.

And isn't it wonderful when you're writing brain comes alive? I'm so happy to hear it!
Kate: Tiwa playfulceitfianna on June 24th, 2013 12:23 am (UTC)
My ankle actually turned out to be fine, its more my elbow. I always forget that scraping my elbow can hurt so much.

Now if I can just get my writing brain into librarian blog mode, it will be perfect. I want to write things about culture and rules but the words haven't come yet. I also have points of aah, not doing enough job stuff but I'm getting ready for the conference which will accomplish a lot.

I'm glad you liked it as it was an interesting fic to write since they're two fascinating women.
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on June 18th, 2013 06:02 am (UTC)
Argggghhh! How aggravating. But I am glad you all had fun.
dodger_sister: alison lohmandodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:33 am (UTC)
Argggghhh! How aggravating.

Indeed. I mean, it doesn't seem like such a terrible thing when you say, 'Oh she stopped by with flowers,' but when you really know my mom, you know how she plays games like that and it is frustrating.

But I am glad you all had fun.

We really did! It was just the right level of fangirl crazy and relaxing that my sister needed! And deserved!
lizibabeslizibabes on June 18th, 2013 04:54 pm (UTC)
I'm glad your sister had a good birthday!! Sounds like you all had a pretty good time for the most part. Fangirl birthday!!

I'm sorry your Mom caused some troubles. I hope it didn't spoil things.
dodger_sister: fangirldodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:36 am (UTC)
Sounds like you all had a pretty good time for the most part. Fangirl birthday!!

Fangirl birthdays are the best! Some SPN, some Hobbit, a lot of beer (for them, not me, but holy shit they went through a lot if it!) some food, all good stuff! It went really well. And now I don't have to make a fuss over her birthday until she turns 50! lol

I'm sorry your Mom caused some troubles. I hope it didn't spoil things.

It didn't really spoil things because I kept my mouth shut (mostly) and didn't harp on it after she had left, so my sister just enjoyed the flowers Mom brought and didn't think much of it. Which is kind of why I needed to get it out on LJ.
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dodger_sister: miscdodger_sister on June 20th, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
sounds like a fun time was had by all.

It turned out to be a pretty good weekend, yes! My sister was very pleased by everything and that makes me happy.

bad mommy, but she left so it worked out.

I was grateful that she didn't try to stick around for cake and stuff, yes, even if my aunt left us a message that weekend saying how she didn't want to bother my sister because 'I know you are in seclusion all weekend' and I was like, "Hmm, wonder what Mom has been telling people." But as long as it didn't affect my sister's awesome weekend, I don't care!

edit: I know how to code things

Edited at 2013-06-20 01:42 am (UTC)