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08 February 2014 @ 10:00 pm
Day Is Ended, Dim My Eyes.  
Grandpa's memorial service was today. It all went really well. Everything looked good and the photo tribute and video came out really nice. My eldest cousin got up and read a poem that she and her boys wrote about 'living in the boondocks', after my grandpa had told them that the farm was out in the 'boondocks' and they didn't know what that word meant. It pretty much showcased every feeling I have about The Farm and the way I feel about my childhood time spent there and to make matters worse, my cousin started crying before she even got through the explanation of what she was about to read - so yeah, everybody was crying by the end of that. I had to miss the graveside service, which meant I missed the military honors, for which I was sad, but it was 10 degrees below zero out and there was a foot and a half of snow and neither of those things are good for my health. So I stayed behind and watched everyone's children for them. It really was such a nice service though (and I'm not one to usually notice that kind of thing even) and my sister and my cousin did such an amazing job getting everything together. It was beyond stressful pulling it out like this, they did so much work, but I am at least glad they let me help a little, let me take a few things off their plates. At any rate, it all came out well. And this certainly won't be the last time I post about Grandpa here, as I have some stories I want to share, but I'm exhausted at the moment, so I thought for now I'd just share a poem. It's Bilbo Last Song, before going over the sea, and I think it is fitting for my grandpa, the Navy man.


Bilbo's Last Song - JRR Tolkien

Day is ended, dim my eyes,
but journey long before me lies.
Farewell, friends! I hear the call.
The ship's beside the stony wall.
Foam is white and waves are grey;
beyond the sunset leads my way.
Foam is salt, the wind is free;
I hear the rising of the Sea.

Farewell, friends! The sails are set,
the wind is east, the moorings fret.
Shadows long before me lie,
beneath the ever-bending sky,
but islands lie behind the Sun
that I shall raise ere all is done;
lands there are to west of West,
where night is quiet and sleep is rest.

Guided by the Lonely Star,
beyond the utmost harbour-bar,
I'll find the havens fair and free,
and beaches of the Starlit Sea.
Ship, my ship! I seek the West,
and fields and mountains ever blest.
Farewell to Middle-earth at last.
I see the Star above my mast!


Rest in peace, Grandpa. I'll miss you every single day, until we meet again, in the West.
 
 
 
Shirebound: Sing Me Home - Baylorshirebound on February 9th, 2014 03:04 am (UTC)
That poem is perfection, isn't it? Thank you for sharing this memorial with us.

*gentle hugs*
dodger_sister: hobbitsdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:13 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling. <3

That poem is perfection, isn't it?

It really is. I re-discovered it not too long ago and it was the first thing I thought of when trying to think of a proper goodbye for my grandpa. He wasn't a Tolkien fan - he was a murder mystery/cowboy western kind of reader - but I think he would have loved this piece.

/hugs back/
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on February 9th, 2014 04:18 am (UTC)
*sniffle* Hope you're all right, bb. You and Sister both.
dodger_sister: griefdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:15 pm (UTC)
*sniffle* Hope you're all right, bb. You and Sister both.

Thanks. I think we are. I got choked up last night, when it finally hit me. I don't know if my sister has had a minute to even grieve yet, but she will. I think it's just going to be one of those things that occasionally comes into my head, that he's gone, and hits me all over again - but most of the time, it's just going to be good memories for a long life well lived. <3s
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on February 13th, 2014 01:30 am (UTC)
most of the time, it's just going to be good memories for a long life well lived.

I'm so glad.
Trigger Warning: Life: ottersmatchboximpala on February 9th, 2014 04:19 am (UTC)

3337791d

many, many *hugs*
dodger_sister: griefdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I feel like it's easier to explain my feelings about losing Grandpa than it is to explain my feelings about how wonderful it was to have him in my life. I don't think he'll ever know how much he meant to me.
Kate: stars in a treeceitfianna on February 9th, 2014 04:25 am (UTC)
*hugs* That service sounds wonderful and the poem is beautiful.
dodger_sister: griefdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:21 pm (UTC)
Thank you. The service really went well. My cousin did a scrapbook and some poster board photo tributes and my sister did the music video (we used Life Is A Song by Patrick Park and it is a beautiful piece). A few flowers and his Navy photo on a little table at the front of the room. And a bunch of the local town showed up, some for the service, some for the lunch, to give Grandma their love. My Grandparents have been a fixture there for 60+ years and everyone knows them, so it was wonderful see so many people show up.

I almost used the lyrics from Into The West for this post but then I remembered this poem and knew I had found my perfect tribute. <3s
lindahoylandlindahoyland on February 9th, 2014 06:06 am (UTC)
Hugs. Looking forward to reading more about your Grandpa.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:23 pm (UTC)
Hugs. Looking forward to reading more about your Grandpa.

Thank you. <3 Your posts about your Mom really inspired me to want to do something similar. And I think in a few months, when I have some of those posts typed up, I'll print them and mail them to my Grandma - I think she'd like to read my take on some of Grandpa's stories.
lindahoylandlindahoyland on February 10th, 2014 03:48 am (UTC)
I'm touched my posts inspired you. I must get more edited. I'm sure your Grandma would love to read what you write.
Jojo: Stock ⇒ Woman [snow]jojothecr on February 9th, 2014 01:48 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:23 pm (UTC)
/hugs back/ Thank you, darling.
wolfrider89: D/C hugwolfrider89 on February 9th, 2014 04:07 pm (UTC)
I'm glad it all went well, bb. It sounds lovely. Sending you lots of hugs!
dodger_sister: griefdodger_sister on February 9th, 2014 08:25 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling. It really did go well. It was simple, but Grandpa was a simple man. I think it's a shame that we can't go to our own funerals, because I think Grandpa would have loved his.

Go listen to 'Life Is A Song' by Patrick Park. It's the music we used for the video tribute and it will make you cry. (it's the song they used in the finale of The OC during the final montage).
wolfrider89: D/C hugwolfrider89 on February 11th, 2014 08:58 am (UTC)
I'll have to do that. Off to make myself cry!

<3
enable l♥ve: [girl crush] stana katic is prettyenablelove on February 10th, 2014 02:22 am (UTC)
*hugs*
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on February 10th, 2014 02:28 am (UTC)
Thanks. /hugs back/. <3
fragrantwoodsfragrantwoods on February 10th, 2014 11:01 am (UTC)
*hugs* it sounds like a wonderful, deeply personal tribute to a memorable man. I'm so sorry for your loss. When you're ready to write them, I'll enjoy reading your grandpa's stories.
dodger_sister: griefdodger_sister on February 19th, 2014 08:06 pm (UTC)
*hugs* it sounds like a wonderful, deeply personal tribute to a memorable man. I'm so sorry for your loss. When you're ready to write them, I'll enjoy reading your grandpa's stories.

Thank you, darling. It really was the perfect tribute for Grandpa - he would have loved it. And it sounds like I am not the only person who is going to write down some of their favorite stories of him, since my Grandma has already gotten some nice thoughtful letters from people sharing their love for Grandpa - I think she'll have a good little set of memories and love put together from it all by this time next year. <3
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dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on February 19th, 2014 08:07 pm (UTC)
Aw, your perfect icon is perfect.

/hugs you back/

Thank you. <3