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21 July 2014 @ 07:53 pm
What Deity Did My Family Piss Off?  
Like, seriously, what did my family do? Did we spit upon the daughter of a god? Like what?

On Friday someone broke into my Grandma's house and robbed her. My loving 89 year old grandmother who lost her husband just 6 months ago. She always runs her errands on Friday, so she was out doing that and someone broke into her house. They bypassed all of her electronics and whatnot and went straight to her bedroom. They overturned her bedcovers, dumped out her dresser drawers and emptied her entire jewelry collection and took it all.


A lot of it was costume jewelry that wasn't even worth anything. But the rest of it was 70 years worth of her marriage to my grandfather. Every piece of jewelry he had ever given her is now gone. She already had it desginated which piece each of us girls were going to get after she passed and of all the things we could get in a will, having a necklace or ring or something that was a gift from my grandpa to my grandma, like something that represented how much they adored and loved each other, that would have been the best inheritance ever. But now, just 6 months after she lost him, she lost all the jewelry he ever gave her. Except for her wedding ring and her 50th anniversary ring, which she thankfully was wearing.

We are so, so glad she wasn't home when it happened, but she is shaken up so bad and so upset and feels so violated. She is washing all of her bedsheets and clothes and anything she thinks they may have touched. These strangers in her house, touching her things.

But it gets worse.

On Saturday my sister took Grandma to a cookout. When they got back, my sister walked Grandma to her door only to find all of the house doors standing open. The thieves had come back. This time, unlike the day before when the car wasn't in the driveway, they came into the house with Grandma's car there - meaning they either have been casing the house and knew she was gone or they thought she was home and just didn't care. Oddly though, they didn't take anything the second time. The police say it is possible that my sister pulled in while they were in the house and they had to bolt without taking anything. Also, my uncle lives right down the street, within view of the house, so maybe he came home and they knew he'd be able to see them carrying things out of the house. But the other thing is that they didn't hit all of the houses on the street and there hasn't been any major burglaries in the area, so this is someone that targeted Grandma specifically, someone that knows that an elderly woman lives there alone. Someone that knew to go right for her jewelry box in her room. This is someone we know.

Grandma is a wreck. The police came out both times and the second time they brought a K9 dog to pick up the scent. The scent didn't lead them anywhere but the dog did check out the barns and coops on the property and the cops determined that at least no one is squatting in one of the out buildings. Grandma spent that night at my uncle's house but she is back home now and we are scurrying to get her a security system. What kind of person would do this to an elderly lady? It has shaken Grandma up so much that I worry about her health now. She is in remarkable shape for a woman of 89 years, using a cane, but still driving and running all her errands and stuff. But this is the kind of thing that can cause a downward spiral for anyone, let alone someone her age.

I am so upset and angry and just...my grandfather dies, my mom's dog gets mauled, my dad's dog dies, my grandma gets robbed...and that's only the big stuff. It seems like a string of bad luck has hit our family this year and I want to know who I have to sacrifice a goat to for it to stop. If you pray or think good thoughts or wishes towards others, please direct some my Grandma's way this week, as we hope to keep her safe and that whoever it is does not come back a third time. And you all be safe too!
 
 
 
Shirebound: Love - Shadowfax8shirebound on July 22nd, 2014 12:01 am (UTC)
That is appalling and horrid and just beyond awful. If I could, I would wrap my arms around your Grandma. I know she must feel very frightened and terribly violated. I'm going to be extra careful, and ask my mom (age 82) to do the same.

Just a thought... have you alerted the local pawn shops about the types of jewelry that were taken?

*tight hugs*
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 07:39 pm (UTC)
That is appalling and horrid and just beyond awful. If I could, I would wrap my arms around your Grandma. I know she must feel very frightened and terribly violated. I'm going to be extra careful, and ask my mom (age 82) to do the same.

Thank you, darling. <3 I think the violation is the worst part for Grandma - she is so upset that these people were in her house, touching all her stuff, the clothes she has to wear have all been handled by these people. Yes, tell your Mom to keep her doors locked, even when she is home. Actually once I had these guys come to the door while I was home alone, dressed in khakis and polos, but asking about my security system, claiming to be from some company and I said, "I'm not going to tell you anything about my security," and shut the door on them and since then, I don't answer the door when I am home alone.

Just a thought... have you alerted the local pawn shops about the types of jewelry that were taken?

Actually yes. The cops thus far haven't turned anything up but they think there is a chance that they may, for two reasons - 1) It is a small town and Grandma has lived there for 60-some years, so once people get talking and the gossip mill gets going, in such a small town it is very possible good tips might come out of it. And 2) because it was jewelry and not just a standard TV or DVD player or whatever, but jewelry that has a specific look to it, it might turn up at the pawn shops. Grandma gave them a description of the pieces (several sets like necklace/ring combos that match) and if I didn't think it would upset her so much to go over it again, I'd sit down and have her describe it while I sketched out pictures of the pieces for the cops. But yeah, because it is distinct looking jewelry, it may turn up.

Thank you for the kind words. :)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on July 22nd, 2014 12:46 am (UTC)
Honey, I am so incredibly sorry to hear this. People are such complete shits sometimes. Thank goodness your Grandmother was not physically hurt by these complete dickwads.
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 07:42 pm (UTC)
Honey, I am so incredibly sorry to hear this. People are such complete shits sometimes. Thank goodness your Grandmother was not physically hurt by these complete dickwads.

Thank you. I am so thankful Grandma wasn't home either time these people came into her house. We keep telling her that is the most important thing, that she was safe, but that's easier for us to say than it is for the person who was violated. With them having come in the house that one day while her car was in the driveway - Idk which is worse, the thought that they are casing the house and knew she wasn't home or that they thought she was home and came in anyways.

Security System should be installed for her today, so hopefully she will be safe now. <3
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on July 25th, 2014 12:19 am (UTC)
I'm very glad to hear that!
sarahk_1963sarahk_1963 on July 22nd, 2014 01:39 am (UTC)
Aww honey, gently hugs your Grandma and gives you a gentle squeeze too.

I have been through exactly the same type of thing, where I interrupted someone breaking and entering into my parent's home.

And after I had contacted the police and was getting over the shock of it all, my parents and I went out and came home to find the house had been ransacked for a second time.

It freaked me out and I refused to stay in the house another night and went to a motel overnight and jumped every time there was a noise in the house and finally when the Offender was eventually arrested (3 months later) he told Police he was high on Speed and Valium at the time (like this excused him from any blame).

It took me a very, very, very long time to feel safe again and it turned out that we did not know him but a scary effing time none the less.

I'm just hoping that a large cement mixer finds the people who broke into your Grandma's house and accidentally (on purpose) unloads it's cement load on top of them!

take care, sarahk
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 07:50 pm (UTC)
I have been through exactly the same type of thing, where I interrupted someone breaking and entering into my parent's home. And after I had contacted the police and was getting over the shock of it all, my parents and I went out and came home to find the house had been ransacked for a second time.

OMG. That is terrifying that you walked in on it. I am so glad nothing bad happened to you - sometimes when they get caught in the middle of the crime, people act without thinking and end up hurting someone. I am shaken up just thinking about it. And then they came back! WTF. I thought it was so weird that these thieves came back to my Grandma's house a second time, but holy crap, maybe it happens more often than we think.

It freaked me out and I refused to stay in the house another night and went to a motel overnight and jumped every time there was a noise in the house and finally when the Offender was eventually arrested (3 months later) he told Police he was high on Speed and Valium at the time (like this excused him from any blame).

I wouldn't have stayed there either - if they came back twice in one day, I would have assumed they were coming back again and gone to a motel as well. The police actually told my grandma to go stay with someone, because they were convinced the thieves were coming back the next day again. It certainly does not excuse his behavior that he was on drugs. I had to own up to everything I did while on drugs, because it is all on me, just like this is on that man, regardless of his state of mind at the time. (thankfully I never did anything like rob someone!). He was on Speed - you are so lucky that he didn't freak out when you came home and caught him, people on Speed often act completely irrationally. Thank goodness they caught the guy!! I hope they catch the bastards that did this to my grandmother too!

I'm just hoping that a large cement mixer finds the people who broke into your Grandma's house and accidentally (on purpose) unloads it's cement load on top of them!

Right there with you! Nobody gets to mess with my Grandma!

Thank you, darling. <3
bugeyedmonsterbugeyedmonster on July 22nd, 2014 03:33 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear about all this. Sending hugs.

Unfortunately, it's likey to be someone who knows your Grandma, like perhaps a neighbor she talks to often? It's sad to think someone could do that sort of stuff to someone they know.

PS... do y'all have any pictures of the stolen jewelry? If so, is it possible anyone can go around to any local pawn shops and ask after the jewelry? (Maybe bring a copy of the police report, in case you do find anything.) And perhaps someone can keep an eye on eBay?

Wishing y'all the best of luck.

Edited at 2014-07-22 03:34 am (UTC)
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 07:59 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling. <3

Unfortunately, it's likey to be someone who knows your Grandma, like perhaps a neighbor she talks to often? It's sad to think someone could do that sort of stuff to someone they know.

That is our assessment too - someone who has been in her house enough to know to go right for her jewelry box and where she keeps it and possibly someone that lives close by and notices when she is home/not home. There is one neighbor that the police have at the top of their suspect list, they just need one little bit of something that would be enough for a search warrant. If it is someone who lives in the town (a very small close knit community) then it is also someone that knows she just lost her husband earlier this year and there is just no level of hell good enough for someone who robs a newly widowed 89 year woman. No level.

PS... do y'all have any pictures of the stolen jewelry? If so, is it possible anyone can go around to any local pawn shops and ask after the jewelry? (Maybe bring a copy of the police report, in case you do find anything.) And perhaps someone can keep an eye on eBay?

I didn't think of Ebay! But yeah, the police took descriptions of the jewelry and gave them out to local pawn shops. A lot of it was sets, like matching necklace/bracelet, matching ring/earrings, and that actually will make it even easier to find the stuff if someone goes to pawn it. Distinctive looking jewelry sets, the cop said that is most likely to turn up. I thought about having Grandma describe the pieces and doing sketches for the cops, but I think it wold upset her to go over it all again and she already gave them descriptions of the pieces once.

Wishing y'all the best of luck.

Thank you. The security system should be getting installed today, so that will hopefully give her some peace of mind. :)
Kate: Hiding Catceitfianna on July 22nd, 2014 04:42 am (UTC)
*hugs you lots* That's horrifying. I hope the police can find out something and that things goes better. Lots and lots of good thoughts sending your family's way.
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 08:01 pm (UTC)
*hugs you lots* That's horrifying. I hope the police can find out something and that things goes better. Lots and lots of good thoughts sending your family's way.

Thank you. <3 So far the police haven't gotten any solid leads - just one real suspect but they can't get enough for a search warrant, but they think once word gets around about Grandma being robbed, that some tips may come in that could be helpful (the pros of a small town, everyone talks and someone knows something). Her security system should be getting installed today, so that will make us sleep easier, I think. Thank you for the love, daring.
lindahoylandlindahoyland on July 22nd, 2014 06:36 am (UTC)
I'm so very sorry, big hugs and lots of good wishes to your Grandma.What a horrible thing to happen"
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 08:03 pm (UTC)
I'm so very sorry, big hugs and lots of good wishes to your Grandma.What a horrible thing to happen"

Thank you. <3s I just don't know who does this to another person, let alone an 89 year old woman. Just terrible. /hugs/
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on July 22nd, 2014 07:36 am (UTC)
That just sucks beyond belief. I am so sorry for your grandmother. If I could make a sacrifice to that vengeful diety and make things better, I would. Much love to you all.
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 08:06 pm (UTC)
That just sucks beyond belief. I am so sorry for your grandmother. If I could make a sacrifice to that vengeful diety and make things better, I would. Much love to you all.

I would take that sacrifice to the vengeful deity! Thank you for the offer. ;) Instead of sacrificing goats, we got Grandma a security system, which should be installed sometime today. Now we are just hoping the cops get a lead and can arrest someone for violating my grandma like that. Thank you for the support, darling. <3
Denidenig37 on July 22nd, 2014 03:16 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
When something goes to shit, it ALL goes to shit, I know that feeling, it made my mom cry not once.

I'm just happy that nothing happened to your grandma.
I'm very sad that she lost the jewelry which meant so much to her but if your granpa was still alive I'm pretty sure he would care more for her being okay than about the jewelry (at least that's how he sounded according to your descriptions).

This world is getting more fucked up each day, I hope the person who is responsible for this chokes on their greed.
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 08:19 pm (UTC)
*hugs* When something goes to shit, it ALL goes to shit, I know that feeling, it made my mom cry not once.

That is how it goes, isn't it? I try to remember that good things have happened too, like my brother buying his first house and my cousin getting engaged, but it is hard when something like my grandma getting robbed happens.

I'm just happy that nothing happened to your grandma.I'm very sad that she lost the jewelry which meant so much to her but if your granpa was still alive I'm pretty sure he would care more for her being okay than about the jewelry (at least that's how he sounded according to your descriptions).

Of course he would! :) That is what we all said to her as well - that nothing matters as long as she is okay., But I think when you feel as violated as she does, it's hard to look at it that way. It's just sad that she lost the jewelry so soon after losing Grandpa, you know?

This world is getting more fucked up each day, I hope the person who is responsible for this chokes on their greed.

Yep, me too. The cops were hopefully about finding who did this, they thought there was a good chance they would get some leads, but the longer this goes on, the less likely the chances become, so I'm hoping to get word about some leads soon.

Thanks for the love, darling!
Why all the pearls?Why all the hair?Why anything?rhymephile on July 23rd, 2014 03:34 am (UTC)
Oh my God, I'm glad grandma is okay! I'm sure this has shaken her faith in humanity, Jesus! I hope they catch these bastards. No one should feel afraid in their own home. A security system is a good idea...I wouldn't want those assholes to come back while she was there!
dodger_sister: upsetdodger_sister on July 24th, 2014 08:23 pm (UTC)
Oh my God, I'm glad grandma is okay! I'm sure this has shaken her faith in humanity, Jesus! I hope they catch these bastards. No one should feel afraid in their own home. A security system is a good idea...I wouldn't want those assholes to come back while she was there!

Thank you. <3 The security system goes in today, so that should make us all rest easier, hopefully Grandma as well. It just feels like Grandma was trying so hard to hang in there after losing Grandpa and this is not a hit she needed right now (though not a hit anyone ever needs, really). She just feels so violated, like her house and everything in it has been infected with their touch, and I think that is worse than losing any of her possessions, tbh. I wouldn't want those assholes to come back while she is there either - though if she did start sleeping with Grandpa's shotgun next to her bed, they'll be sorry if they do!