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21 July 2015 @ 11:11 pm
Help A Fangirl Out.  
My longtime LJ friend, denyce, has suffered a family tragedy and lost her brother recently. She lost her mother a few years ago and her father is not in any sort of place to help her out much with the arrangements for her brother's cremation and memorial. She would also like to fly back home to the rest of her family and spend some time with them, grieving and celebrating her brother with those who loved him best. Unfortunately she never has much left over for herself after bills are paid and certainly not enough for this out-of-the-blue expense. So, to raise money, she has set up a GoFundMe page, as well as selling some of her brother's things. At present, she just has his DVD collection listed for sale, but intends on putting up more things, including some Star Trek merchandise that I know would interest some of you.

denyce is a total doll and always pops in with a kind word when I am having difficulties. I know some families can be full of nothing but emotional support and love, but unfortunately I know what it is like not to have that when you need it. I also know what it is like to get that support instead from friends and the fandom community. Which is why I am posting this here and asking you all to look over the items for sale or at the GoFundMe page or just drop a note of support in the post linked below. It would mean a lot to her, I know!

The items for sale are here and as she lists other things to sell, I will drop a link for those up on my LJ as well. Thanks for taking the time guys! You rock!
D: Stock: snuggles Udenyce on July 22nd, 2015 04:34 pm (UTC)
You're the doll! Thank you & honestly you've been there for me way more. The last few years I... well you know. I honestly feel more of a kinship to fandom now more than ever. And it seems to be highlighted with Jared's message of: Always Keep Fighting, its one I can relate to and need to keep hearing in my darkest moments.

I disappeared again. As my anger started to dissipate, it left me feeling hollow that I dragged my feet on everything even just getting out of bed. It's just hard staring at his things and then dealing the business of his cremation. All the things I never knew, making appts to fill out paperwork, making decisions etc... I got his ashes & death certificate on Friday then spent the entire weekend wallowing in my grief.

Well partly, I did work on a fic, my draft for wincestbang. It helped driving into another world and surprisingly my muse urged me on (I even finished the draft, so I will have it to post next month).

I leave for back east Aug. 6th. I'm going for 12 days - going to put his ashes with our grandmother, Nan. He would have liked that.

I can't tell you how much I appreciated the signal boost. But I'm going to put a hold on selling anything more until I get back (will post a note about that tonight when I get home - though I will take care of those who already responded before I leave). Hopefully after having a chance to really grieve with family & put his ashes with Nan, I'll be back with a clearer head to move forward.

I can't thank you enough for your love & support, I hear and feel it through every word- just seeing your name lightens my heart <33333333333
dodger_sister: hugdodger_sister on September 8th, 2015 09:24 pm (UTC)
Hey, babe! Just catching up on old comments and found this and thought it would be a good chance to catch up with you and see how you are doing. Hopefully throwing yourself into writing, as I know, like you said, how immersing yourself in another world can help you through rough times. Sometimes being depressed makes it hard to get in another headspace, but if you can, oh yes it helps.

I am glad you got to spend so much time back east with your family and celebrating your brother's life. As always, if there is anything I can do for you, just let me know! All the <3s.