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25 August 2015 @ 06:57 pm
Health Updates, But Not MIne.  
Hoyboy, this is going to be a long one.

You remember my brother was sick, right? Well they finally figured out what the problem was. He had a vasectomoy two years ago and something in there got pinched and - TMI Warning - the semen was backing up and suddenly he had two 10 centimeter cysts and then they hardened up and so draining wasn't even an option. He had the surgery to remove them on Thursday, but it will be a long painful recovery, at least three months before he can care for The Niece by himself.

Sis and I paid for The Niece to be at her aunt's daycare for the sumnmer and she agreed to take The Nephew for free because kids 7 and over who are related to you don't count against your numbers. That got them through the build up to the surgery and now my dad is paying for the kids to get babysat by a woman who lives close by, who is a stay-at-home mom that agreed to take the The Niece all day and The Nephew after school. And Sis-In-Law took four days off post-surgery and then they have a neighbor who does home health care that agreed to come check on my brother like 3 times a day for the first week for a cheap price, so that's good.

But in the meantime, the place Sis-In-Law works got sold to another company and they demoted her, made her switch from salary pay to hourly pay and their insurance coverage changed from 80/20 to 60/40. Plus, they messed up big-time and registered all of their employees with the tax filing of 'single with no dependents' when 70% of their employees are adults supporting their families on these paychecks like Sis-In-Law. (won't say which fast food place, but it's a major one, so let's dispel the notion that fast food workers are largely pimple-faced teenagers earning cash for prom doing an easy job of simply flipping burgers, which is such a fucking understatement of their job requirements). So she's looking for another job, but in the meantime, they were switching over insurances and it got all screwed up and they got slapped with like 10k in bills because they were trying to squeeze in stuff before their new crappier insurance kicked in, but then the old insurance refused to cover them and the hospital almost wouldn't do Brother's surgery because they couldn't prove they had insurance and they spent the week leading up to the surgery doing nothing but fighting with the insurance company and the hospital. They finally got the 10K covered, but at one point my Sis-In-Law was in our living room just sobbing. It's been pretty awful.

Anyways, we took The Nephew this weekend, post Brother's surgery, to help keep the house quiet for him. Was a fun weekend for me, as I had TN at my side the whole time - but my poor sister did not get to enjoy him all that much...because on Thursday, my mom tripped while walking the dog and shattered her shoulder in six places. They have to do a joint replacement.

Mom pulled out her cellphone and called 911, then called my aunt to come take the dog, as she was holding onto his leash still - (he's such a good boy it would never occur to him to leave her side anyways) - and then called me, all while laying on the sidewalk. Sis went to the ER where they splinted Mom's arm, scheduled her to see the surgeon the next week, kept her overnight and then sent her home in the morning - my 67 year old chronically ill mother, they sent her home. By Saturday morning, Mom said her ribs hurt so bad that she thought she had busted them too and she couldn't even sit up without screaming pain, so Sis called 911 again. They said it was the way she was wearing her arm splint, pushing against her ribs, so they fixed it and sent her home...again. But Sis insisted she come to our house, so she was here all day and night on Saturday. Those of you that know my relationship with my mom, know the thought of her having to stay with us until the surgery was frightening to say the least. But I was on Nephew duty all weekend, so I didn't see her that much and TN was super helpful, bringing her things and checking on her. Sunday morning at 6am Sis went to give Mom her morning pain pills and Mom thought she was having a heart attack, so we called the ambulance again. (Sis woke TN up and asked if he wanted to get in bed with me and go back to sleep and he was so chill about the ambulance by that point that he was like, "Nah," and just started playing video games while the paramedics were here). They said she had fluid on her lungs - big surprise that a chronically ill elderly woman would get fluid on her lungs after being laid up for three days - and had a heart arrhythmia, that turned out to be from the trauma and pain. But they finally agreed to keep her.

She is in surgery as we speak, getting a shoulder replacement. She will stay in the hospital for a few days and then transfer to a temporary rehab facility - prob the same nursing home my grandpa was in, which I really liked, but in the other wing where the temp patients go. And then home health care and home PT for two weeks after she gets home. And three months of PT total for her recovery and, knowing her, she'll probably pick going to the same place I go for PT, which will make my head explode, but at least she doesn't have to stay with us!

Omg, this was so long, but my family, wtf!
Shireboundshirebound on August 25th, 2015 11:05 pm (UTC)
Holy guacamole! What an awful month for your family. I sure hope the worst is over. And what's going on at your Sis-In-Law's job is just criminal.

*tight hugs*
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:21 pm (UTC)
Holy guacamole!

This is the best response to my family's month I have ever heard. Totally made me laugh!

Things are not going well with Mom's recovery - if you follow my sister on Facebook, then you know how things are going - but Mom's keeping her head and hopes up.

My sister's work place selling out to that company is such a clusterfuck. My brother said it would be like this because he researched the company when the negotiations were going on and was like, "She'll be lucky to keep her job." She started work there at 14 and has worked her way up the ladder for 13 years to be the store manager, head of the entire store, with nothing but a GED under her belt. She is smart as shit and now is applying for a factory line job at $12 an hour because that has better insurance than this new company. She has to bail on everything she has worked for and I am so pissed and $12 an hour is not enough to support the family so my brother has to go back to work, no more stay-at-home dad.

And the money they lost in taxes because the company filed them as 'single with no dependents' will not be back in their pockets until tax season next year.

I agree, it is all criminal!
Shireboundshirebound on September 2nd, 2015 12:28 am (UTC)
Grrrrrrrr. It's just awful.

I'm not on Facebook, so I appreciate the family (and other) news you bring to LJ.
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on August 25th, 2015 11:17 pm (UTC)
Holy fucking hell. I am SO GLAD that the insurance finally covered your brother's stuff - any chance of a lawsuit against the surgeons for the vasectomy? Would that do any good or just make things harder for a small chance of payout?

You and your sister are pretty fucking awesome, just saying.

Holy crap, your mom has SHITTY luck. What a relief that she got into surgery so fast, though; hopefully they will not repeat the STUPID of not permitting her to stay when she needs to do so.

dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:30 pm (UTC)
Holy fucking hell. I am SO GLAD that the insurance finally covered your brother's stuff - any chance of a lawsuit against the surgeons for the vasectomy?

You know what I love? That most people were like, 'prayers and hugs, dear' and you were immediately like 'Holy Fucking Hell, let's sue!!" It made me laugh and tear up at the same time, like your special brand of caring. <3s

IDK if a lawsuit has even occurred to them. It might be one of those things where they were warned ahead of time like, "There is as small chance something could go wrong, blahblahblah." But after his recovery gets along a bit more, I do plan on bringing it up to Brother, bc they could really use the money right now and SIL had to use so many days, lose money, during his surgery and recovery, not to mention the daycare money etc.

You and your sister are pretty fucking awesome, just saying.

Awwww. <3


Right back at ya!

(didn't even reply to the stuff about Mom, bc you know where that shit went...right now they are saying no surgeries until she is stronger, sending her to rehab as soon as her blood pressure is under control. But they said something different yesterday, so who the fuck knows).

Edited at 2015-09-01 10:34 pm (UTC)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on September 1st, 2015 11:15 pm (UTC)
Damn straight! I both bear hug or comfort and Mama Bear on some asshole's behind! RAWR!

*dances around* HUGS! HUGS FOR DAYS!
lindahoylandlindahoyland on August 26th, 2015 02:22 am (UTC)
So sorry you have all this to deal with. Hugs.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:35 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling. When it rains, it pours, is the saying after all. <3
Kate: Hiding Catceitfianna on August 26th, 2015 04:05 am (UTC)
*hugs your family* I'm glad that you've found a solution for your mother but oh your brother and sister-in-law. I'm sorry that they're being hit so hard. I'm sending lots of good thoughts your way and will send a package too, this seems like a useful time for it.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:37 pm (UTC)
My brother has actually hit the point where he thinks SIL might have a legit nervous breakdown. But his recovery is going well, actually. He is way ahead of where they predicted he would be at this point and has even stopped his narcotics and is just taking his regular Fibro meds now. So one point in the plus column!
bugeyedmonsterbugeyedmonster on August 26th, 2015 04:32 am (UTC)
Sending hugs and virtual cookies, as that was a crazy week(s) or whatever.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:39 pm (UTC)
Thank you. It was a horrendous August for my family and September isn't shaping up much better. I always look forward to October bc of Halloween, but now I feel like October honestly can't get here soon enough!
crucis01crucis01 on August 26th, 2015 07:07 pm (UTC)
Oh man! I hope recovery goes ell! Never heard of this, but it sounds horrible. Best to him and all of you!
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:40 pm (UTC)
Thank you. My brother's recovery is going quite well, much better than they anticipated actually. I think he'll be back on his feet full-time soon enough!

Mom's recovery is not going so well, still in the hospital, trying to keep her hopes up though.
elfscribe5: Cherry Blossomselfscribe5 on August 27th, 2015 01:07 am (UTC)
God, what a bunch of disasters! It seems like everyone I know is having major problems. So sorry. Hang in there.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:44 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling,

My brother is recovering much faster than they expected, which is good. They have sorted out their insurance snafu, which is also good. The money that was lost to taxes bc the company filed them wrong will not be back in their pockets until tax season next year, which is not good. S-I-L is applying for a crappy $12 an hour job, way below her pay and experience level, just to get out of that terrible company and get some better health insurance, which is not good and pisses me off that she is basically being run out after 13 years. Mom is still in the hospital with her shoulder, as they have found heart issues and can't release her yet, which is not good, at all.

Thanks for the support. It looks like we still have a few rough weeks ahead of us. <3
Denidenig37 on August 27th, 2015 04:23 pm (UTC)
registered all of their employees with the tax filing of 'single with no dependents' when 70% of their employees are adults supporting their families

Isn't that illegal?

Bubble wrap, for all of you, seriously.
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 10:48 pm (UTC)
--registered all of their employees with the tax filing of 'single with no dependents' when 70% of their employees are adults supporting their families--

Isn't that illegal?

Probably. They claimed it was an 'error' and that they are fixing it, and it seems like they are actually fixing it now, but in the meantime, all of those employees lost money to taxes bc of it and won't see that money returned to them until like May of next year, during our tax return season. And that all seems like bullshit to me!

Bubble wrap, for all of you, seriously.

LOL My older brother suggested we put Mom in a bubble. Like instead of The Boy In The Bubble, she'll be The Old Lady In The Bubble. His five year old heard him say this and said, "Dad, who'se the old lady in the bubble?" and he goes, "Grandma, honey, Grandma." ahahahalol.

Edited at 2015-09-01 10:49 pm (UTC)
Denidenig37 on September 2nd, 2015 04:25 am (UTC)

I also like the suing thing idea but that would mean money needed for a lawyer :-/ reminds me of this joke:

An engineer died and reported to the pearly gates. An newly annointed angel, filling in for St. Peter, checked his dossier and grimly said, "Ah, you're an engineer; you're in the wrong place."

So the engineer was cast down to the gates of hell and was let in. Pretty soon, the engineer became gravely dissatisfied with the level of comfort in hell, and began designing and building improvements. After a while, the underworld had air conditioning, flush toilets, and escalators, and the engineer was becoming a pretty popular guy among the demons.

One day, God called Satan up on the telephone and asked with a sneer, "So, how's it going down there in hell?" Satan laughed and replied, "Hey, things are going great. We've got air conditioning and flush toilets and escalators, and there's no telling what this engineer is going to come up with next."

God's face clouded over and he exploded, "What? You've got an engineer? That's a mistake; he should never have gotten down there; send him up here." Satan shook his head, "No way. I like having an engineer on the staff, and I'm keeping him."

God was as mad as he had ever been, "This is not the way things are supposed to work and you know it. Send him back up here or I'll sue."

Satan laughed uproariously, "Yeah, right. And just where are YOU going to get a lawyer?"

Edited at 2015-09-02 04:26 am (UTC)
dodger_sister: familydodger_sister on September 7th, 2015 09:03 pm (UTC)
Some lawyers will wait and take their payment after they have won the lawsuit, so suing could be an option for Brother.

Lol lol that joke! I told it to my dad (who loves a good joke) and he was laughing before I ever got to the end of the joke, because he knew how it was going to end. It cracked us both up!