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30 August 2015 @ 09:20 pm
RIP, My Friend.  
My cousin's wife, Tracy, passed away yesterday afternoon. She'd had cancer for well over a year and treatment just wasn't taking. Most recently they found it in her liver. She was finally ready for it to end and was sent home Tuesday with hospice. They said she probably had about two weeks. She made it four days. Her daughters came home and spent that time with her and her husband was there with her at the end. She has been a member of our family for 15 years and always will be.

I just feel like she had such a rough life, growing up and then pregnant at 15, basically a single mom for 11 years. And then she met my cousin and it wasn't perfect, but she never had to worry for anything, he cared for her and those kids and just...she was finally in a place where she should have been safe and secure, watching her daughters grow into amazing young ladies who are off to college now. This was the time to enjoy the rest of her life, just her and her husband and their small army of dogs. And the fact that that was stripped from her by such a terrible illness is so horrible.

I didn't see Tracy as much as I would have liked, but when I did, we both talked at each other non-stop, like cackling geese. She always told me that I cracked her up and that my view on things was amazing and always made her feel better. I am so sorry I didn't get a chance to say goodbye and I will miss her so much.

Photo by Steffen Schrägle

Safe travels through the mist, my friend.
 
 
 
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on August 31st, 2015 02:23 am (UTC)
Because your week wasn't hard enough already. *HUGE SMISHY HUGS*

Also, don't read anything in the publishing group for a while. I've got an anti-cancer rant going on and you probably don't need that right now.

Love you, babe.

Edited at 2015-08-31 02:23 am (UTC)
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:19 pm (UTC)
Because your week wasn't hard enough already.

Word on that, sister. Like Sis doesn't even know right now if she can go to the memorial because Mom may be having surgery that day and she asked me, "Are you going to the memorial? What if you are at the memorial when you get the call that mom died during surgery?" Like, seriously, these should never be questions anyone has to ask themselves.

Love you too! (got excited today cuz the UPS dropped off a package and I thought it was yours, but then it was just my sister's medication refills, boring.)
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on September 1st, 2015 11:11 pm (UTC)
Both go to the memorial. Leave if you have to - it'll be emotionally fraught and that may make it too tiring to stay long anyway. Added bonus - plenty of shoulders there to cry on as needed, should you guys get an awful call.

Damn UPS! But it'll come from the postal service.
Jo Ann: Angelyeuxdebleu on August 31st, 2015 02:34 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an abominable disease.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:49 pm (UTC)
Thank you, darling.

Cancer is such an abominable disease

It really is. And you fight and fight it, and go through all the horrid treatments, and it may seem worth it if you win in the end. But when you lose - I know how awful this past year has been for her, stripped of herself is so many ways, and that she lost the fight after all that is horrible and unfair in the worst way.

At least she isn't suffering anymore. <3
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on August 31st, 2015 02:46 am (UTC)
I hope this embeds, and makes you smile.

Two Tiny Kittens Enter a Tiny Boxing Ring

Tiny kitten wrestling match!!!

Posted by America's Funniest Home Videos on Wednesday, August 26, 2015
dodger_sister: animalsdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:50 pm (UTC)
Omg, yes, thank you! The one that kept trying to fit between the ropes and getting tangled, omg! Too cute. <3
Ironlily - Making My Marquevikingprincess on September 1st, 2015 11:12 pm (UTC)
I'm glad to hear it. :D
Shirebound: Sing Me Home - Baylorshirebound on August 31st, 2015 03:17 am (UTC)
What truly sad news. I know your heart is hurting tonight.

(((YOU)))
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:52 pm (UTC)
Thank you, babe. This post was hard to type, to face the reality of it. It seems so abstract still, the loss unreal almost. But her daughters have decided to do a wonderful thing and skip a funeral and just have a wake at her favorite bar and grill and I know Tracy would have loved that!
lindahoylandlindahoyland on August 31st, 2015 03:18 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry, big hugs.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:53 pm (UTC)
Thank you, big hugs are definitely needed this week. <3
crucis01crucis01 on August 31st, 2015 03:39 am (UTC)
Jugs and thoughts to you and yours. It sounds as if you two had a great relationship. Hang on to that, and remember the smiles and laughter! {{HUGS}}
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:55 pm (UTC)
It sounds as if you two had a great relationship. Hang on to that, and remember the smiles and laughter!

Thank you. I most certainly will hang on to all the smiles and laughter. And I know her memorial on Thursday will be full of people telling lovely stories about her as well. <3
bugeyedmonsterbugeyedmonster on August 31st, 2015 03:51 am (UTC)
I am so sorry to hear about your friend (cousin's wife.) Sending hugs.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:56 pm (UTC)
Thank you. There will be an empty spot at our family table from now on and we will all miss her so. <3
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on August 31st, 2015 04:09 am (UTC)
My condolences to you and your family, honey. That is very sad news.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 08:57 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I am still in that stage where everything is very abstract and unreal, but I think her memorial on Thursday will shock me out of that. Just the thought that she is gone is till hard to imagine. <3
Kate: Hiding Catceitfianna on August 31st, 2015 06:18 pm (UTC)
*hugs you and your family* I'm sorry but I'm glad that she was a part of your life and you were a part of hers.
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 09:00 pm (UTC)
*hugs you and your family* I'm sorry but I'm glad that she was a part of your life and you were a part of hers.

Thank you. I am so glad to have known her and have a relationship with her like I did. I still remember the first time I met Tracy, a bunch of us cousins went bowling together and it was the first time my cousin had ever brought a woman to any family-type thing ever, oh the shock, lol. <3

And thank you so much for all your support this week. I never would have stayed sane without a it.
Denidenig37 on August 31st, 2015 09:43 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
dodger_sister: comfortdodger_sister on September 1st, 2015 09:01 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I could use all the hugs right now. <3