Now let's play a hypothetical. Let's say your family all lives in one state and you live a ways away in another state. And when you come to visit, you always stay with your sister, because she has the most room for your family and is in a central location and it just works out best. Still with me? So now let's say you are thinking about coming home for a visit. What is the first thing you do?
a) Tell your mom you are coming for a visit.
b) Tell your dad you are coming for a visit.
c) Ask your boss for time off.
d) Get time off and schedule the whole trip.
e) Call your sister and let her know what is going on.
As you can guess from the tone that I am sure is seeping its way through my written words here - The Canadian-Brother did a - d before he even bothered to do e. So my sister and I, the people who will be housing him, were the last to know.
And also, WE ARE NOT A HOTEL! You don't just call and book a room for the days you want. Again in this hypothetical game, if it were you, would you call and say "this is when we are coming home" or would you say "we are thinking of coming home in May - do you have anything going on?" Because if he had, we probably would have told him that May is already overly booked for us and that June would be a lot better.
We actually have something going on every weekend this month, which is a lot for me. You all know how I have been trying to be good about not overdoing myself too much. We had plans the weekend of his visit and plans for the weekend right after - (he'll be arriving on Friday the 18th and leaving on Wednesday the 23rd) - and we have to cancel/rearrange those plans now because my brother just told us that he is coming home. Not to mention how it is my and The BFF's birthday on the 23rd and now she has to go find a place to stay for the week because they are taking her bedroom. (I feel like I should specify here that when we invited her to move in after law school, it was with the provision that she give up the room for the week my brother comes home to visit...but that is between us and her. From his angle, he is taking her bedroom). If they had asked us, we would have told them that The BFF is moving out at the beginning of June and maybe they could come visit then.
I actually had a lot more complaints about this typed up but I think you all get the main picture. It's never convenient when they come visit but at least it would be nice if we didn't have to cancel things we had going on just because they are coming home. I wish my mom had bought a house that was big enough for his family to stay at. I love my brother and I hate that those kids are growing up so far away from me that I am missing it all. I want to be able to be happy when they come home to visit but when it puts this much stress on me, it is hard to be anything but grumpy.